I'm challenging you all again....won't you PRAY about adopting or
fostering a child? Or maybe you don't want to pray because you are
afraid the Lord might ask you to take a step of faith and open up your
home to a child. Do you worry about finances, or time or whether or not
you can love a child not born to you as much as you love your own
children? Do you believe that if God leads you down this path He won't
give you the grace you need to love a child, and that He won't continue
to fulfill His promise to provide for your needs? We have been adopted
into the family of God...won't you pray about passing on this blessing
of family to a child or teen?
Our hearts have gotten bigger': Congressman reflects on decision to adopt twins
Lisa Flam
TODAY
Markwayne Mullin had just
been elected to Congress when the father of three began another, even
more important journey that would change his life. He met the twin
toddlers, distant cousins, who would one day join his family as his
daughters.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
The Mullin family at their farm in Oklahoma.
It was the fall of 2012, and he and his wife were already parents to
three young kids. Their hectic life, filled with work and family, was
about to get a whole lot busier with his new job in Washington.
When the twins paid a visit to the Mullin home, on a 1,000-acre horse
and cattle farm in Westville, Oklahoma, to celebrate their second
birthday a few weeks after the election, Markwayne was struck by the way
his wife, Christie, and their kids took to the little ones.
And he sensed what was coming: Christie would suggest they adopt the girls, born to her distant teenage cousin.
"It wasn't a good situation," Markwayne said. The girls were separated
as infants and being raised lovingly but apart, tended by Christie's
aging great aunts.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Ivy (left), Larra (middle), and Lynette (right) celebrate the twins’ 4th birthday at a Frozen-themed birthday party.
"My wife was loving on the girls. My kids were loving on them," the
now-second term Republican congressman recalled. "I was sitting there
thinking, 'There's no way.' Our life just got turned upside down by me
being elected to Congress."
"I literally put it out of my mind, but I could just tell," he added.
"My wife is the most loving person that you can ever imagine."
Through prayer and the support of their children and their parents,
Markwayne, 37, and Christie, 36, did adopt the twins, Lynette and Ivy,
in August 2013. With those energetic little girls, now 4, plus the
couple's big kids, Jim, now 11; Andrew, 9; and Larra, 6, the Mullins
became the parents of five.
Although it hasn't always been easy since the brood grew, with two
additional voices jockeying for attention and more logistics to consider
when flying five kids to Washington, the twins immediately became part
of the family.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Markwayne and Larra together in Hawaii on the family’s vacation in 2014.
"We were Mommy and Daddy from Day One," Markwayne said. "And those daughters were our daughters from Day One."
"There was an instant bond," said Christie, the same sort of bond that
would have been there had she brought them home from the hospital as
newborns.
The big kids were excited to welcome them, too, sometimes lavishing a
little too much attention on the little ones. And the girls, social and
friendly, easily found their place in the family's political life,
Christie said, able to handle meeting lots of people who often want to
hold them.
"They have done a great job fitting into our crazy congressional world," Christie said.
The couple, who celebrated their 18th anniversary on Sunday, didn't reach the decision to adopt hastily.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Markwayne gives Ivy (front) and Lynette (back) a “big push.”
At first, Markwayne was reluctant, and felt scared and nervous at the
thought of upsetting the balance of their life, already full with sports
practices and homework, several family businesses and the farm.
"I was being real selfish," he said. "I was trying to protect what we had."
Markwayne and Christie talked about helping the girls financially, and discussed the adoption option for several months.
"She would talk about maybe we should think about adopting the girls,
and I'd make up an excuse and make up an excuse, and she was very
patient with me," he recalled.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Markwayne rests with son Jim in the hospital after he is treated for a wrist injury.
He worried about how the pair would affect their three kids, and
whether he would be capable of loving the twins as he did his own
children.
Christie shared with him that her great aunts, both around 70 at the
time and living alone on fixed incomes, were worried they might not be
able to meet the girls' needs as they grew older.
"They just prayed they would live long enough to see them graduate
school," Christie said, adding that the women did a great job with the
twins. "Markwayne and I felt like we were the ones who needed to step
up."
The question was: When? Christie felt that if something happened to
girls' caretakers, she and Markwayne would have taken the girls at any
point. But why wait for them to experience grief or to be older, when
integrating them into their family would be harder, she said.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Larra and Jim help Markwayne at his weekly radio show.
Their Christian faith plays an important role in their lives, and
Markwayne said his wife pulled "the ultimate trump card." She asked him
to pray about the decision.
After he came around, the next step was to win the blessing of their own children.
"When we sat down and talked to them, they just instantly said,
'Mommy, they need a daddy and a mommy just like we do,'" Markwayne said.
"They were so insistent on us bringing the kids in. It was just
overwhelming."
The couple recalled crying together afterward in private. "I was so
proud of them," Christie said of the big kids. "They were so mature and
selfless."
The adoption process moved quickly. And in the two years since those
blond little girls moved in, the couple has been blown away by the
togetherness.
Courtesy Markwayne Mullin / Mallory Hall Photography
Ivy (left), Lynette (middle), and Larra (right) enjoy the beach on a family vacation to Hawaii in 2014.
"For about the first six months we had the girls, all the kids slept
together in that one bedroom," with bunk beds," Markwayne said. "They
did it all themselves."
Now, he calls the twins a more of blessing on the family rather than the other way around.
"All of us have grown from it," he added. "All of our hearts have
gotten bigger. All of us understand it's not about us. You live this
life being selfish, you're not going to enjoy it like you will when you
open your heart and your home up."
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